Many years ago when I was knee high to a grass hopper, my grandparents often talked about moving from their semidetached council house on the dreary outskirts of London and buying a post office in rural Dorset. It was their life-long dream, and reflected the modest ambitions of the age. They even got as far as driving down and viewing a village post office just outside of Dorchester somewhere. The talking and planning went on for years while I was growing up until a time when they became too old and the opportunity of changing their lives and making their dreams come true passed them by. I often wonder what stopped them, why they never made it happen, and how many of us live with this same gnawing feeling, that one day, we will make our dreams come true. So what is it that’s really stopping us?
Never before have so many of us had our lives completely up ended, shaken up, trampled on and then put down somewhere else. In a normal year, 30% of the working population will change jobs. In a year that we’re all still staggering through this will double, which works out at an unprecedented 19 million of us in the UK alone. The Word CV template must be on fire.
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So, just as we were all getting along fine, earning decent money, going on holiday and being normal, along comes a worldwide pandemic and wipes the slate clean. It’s like a global Etcha Sketch, we’re all back at square one scratching our heads, wondering how long our savings will last and whether to re-do our CV’s. Here’s a handful of things that will make the difference between hopeless resignation and quiet optimism whilst picking ourselves up and starting from scratch after lockdown…again.
A little while ago a friend of mine took his 16 year old daughter to the doctor as she had been depressed for several weeks following the break up of her relationship with her boyfriend. Perfectly reasonable you would think. What shocked me though was that she had been prescribed two different sorts of antidepressants (one as short term “pick you up” and a longer term SSRI) as well as three months supply of sleeping tablets. Surely this can’t be right?
Have you ever occasionally hated the person you share your life with? For all of us the recent lockdown has blast tested our relationships, and many of us have discovered that what keeps us together is actually space apart. It’s a bewildering conundrum. Is it right? Is it healthy or a sign of imminent divorce? Basically, is it normal to want to kill your husband? Firstly I must say that the title of this article is taken from a real question, by a real person, from a recent and also very real online relationship counselling session.