Quite often I am asked whether relationship counselling will actually help, or what will be gained from our couples therapy retreat. These are excellent questions, and I would ask exactly the same thing. Yesterday, just before someone made their final booking with us they asked if I could send them exactly what they would get out of their 7 day couples retreat. So, this is a version of what I wrote. Here are six things that you will get from our programme.
Resolution of Your Problems
As my old counselling teacher used to say, “Ambivalence is okay to pass through, but you wouldn’t want to live there.” Many of our guests have been living with chronic ambivalence, wrestling with difficult and conflicting thoughts; do I stay or do I go? Is this relationship worth rescuing? Do I give it one last chance? You will be able to resolve your dilemmas during relationship counselling with us.
Greater Understanding and Insight
Our programme starts with a state of the art clinical personality profile specially adapted by our colleague Prof Robin Russel of Goldsmiths College University of London. This profile will give you a clear understanding of who you are and who your partner is. It’s important to understand what we can and can’t change.
Increased Objectivity and Healthy Perspective
By getting away from your day to day life and working with us for a concentrated and focused amount of time you will be able to see things much more clearly. It’s often impossible to clearly see your problems when you are standing in the middle of them. You will be able to get much needed distance from your life and all of its problems. You can think more clearly and make important decisions with confidence.
Improved Confidence and Self Esteem
By the end of your stay with us your confidence and self esteem will improve. It’s a struggle to maintain confidence and self esteem whilst struggling with important life changes. As soon as you begin unraveling the problems and finding your way forward again, you will begin to feel better.
Improved Relationship With Yourself
As a result of all of the above you will have an improved relationship with yourself. No longer will you drag around your relationship’s emotional baggage which will make you feel freer, happier and more yourself.
A Clear Way Forward: An Action Plan
By the time we say goodbye, you and your partner will have a clear change plan which you have both agreed upon. This is your map for the future which will help you navigate your way forward. We write it down with you so you won’t forget it or lose it.
Apart from these six you will of course also have a great holiday in the sun at a beautiful, award winning boutique hotel. You can sit around the pool watching the butterflies flit through the orchids sipping an early evening cocktail. I guarantee that couples counselling doesn’t get any better than this.
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Paul Shannon says
Yes, I agree with the 4th and 5th one. It will really help in increasing self-confidence.